Asking great questions is as much an art as it is a skill. But developing that question-asking muscle is essential for great leadership. Asking great questions is the most effective thing a leader can do to create conversational environments where people can experience healthy relationships and spiritual growth.
Jesus did this better than anyone in history. In the Gospels, he’s asked a ton of questions — everything from “Are you the Son of God?” to “Which is the greatest commandment in the law?” He rarely responds with an answer. Instead, he tends to ask questions that lead people to consider the truth, think about their own experiences, and reflect. Jesus understood that asking great questions helps people to process what they’re thinking and feeling and to really own the answers they discover. Providing quick, simple answers doesn’t usually do that.
When it comes to asking great questions, Jesus sets the bar high. You probably won’t be as quick or insightful as he was (I’m not, that’s for sure). But it’s still a great idea to work on your question-asking skills, and to look to Christ for inspiration. You won’t change overnight, but in time you’ll find that your ability to ask better questions will create a better environment for your group members to grow.
Here are five simple, self-explanatory tips for asking great questions in group:
- Ask open-ended questions, not those that can be answered with a yes or no.
- Ask questions that evoke feelings, make people think, and lead to insights.
- Ask questions that have more than one right answer.
- Ask questions that encourage group members to share personal examples.
- Ask questions that stimulate group members to apply what they’re learning.
Responding to questions by asking good follow-up questions engages everyone in the group. As you guide the conversation, make sure responses connect your questions to the topic you’re discussing, pave the way for you and your group members to talk about your personal struggles, and encourage self-discovery by allowing people to arrive at their own conclusions with the help of the group discussion.
I would add to that list some of the questions that Greg Koukl adds in his book Tactics when you get an answer that needs further exploration such as “How did you come to that conclusion” or “what evidence do you have to support that answer?”
We all need work in this area as you note and I for one need it as well. thanks for the wise instruction.
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Great suggestion! Love it.
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We’re just getting ready to resume our small study/worship group after a summer hiatus. Your tips will be great to keep in mind. Thanks!
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Thank you!
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Great tips! We all to often forget to fully engage with a conversation and asking relevant questions is the surest way of doing this. Really made me consider my own questioning in groups.
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I agree to those tips and would start asking questions that brings conversations.
Thanks!
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